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At Least You Had a Choice

“At least you had a choice.”

I still remember the sting of these words when I heard them as a 29-year-old newly divorced single mother. The speaker was an older woman whose husband had died months before my husband and I separated.

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Your grief and pain is unique to you, no matter how outwardly similar it might look to others, and you always deserve compassion.

I was still in my ‘year of firsts,’ while she had passed that milestone.

I don’t remember anything about our conversation before or after that line. I do remember thinking that she was wrong. Continue reading

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Stand Tall When Life Gangs Up on You

We all have those stretches of life when we feel like nothing is going right. Certainly life’s not going the way you want it to.

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Call on the rock hard strength that is within you to weather the rough patches in your life.

When life seems to batter you from all sides, stand strong for who you are and true to what you believe in. Most of all

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The Courage to Change

One definition of insanity is to continue doing the same thing but to expect a different result. Too often I see otherwise sane and intelligent people act as though they

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We can settle for what comes our way, or we can go after what we want.

always have, and yet expect that a relationship, health, or job situation will change in precisely the way they want.

It’s easy to tell yourself that others must do the changing. You don’t have to do anything except sit back and wait. Your wish is your command.

Except, your wish is only your wish. If you really expect things to change, then you have to be the one to make the change. Continue reading

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