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What’s So Funny?

“Have I reached the person to whom I am speaking?”

~Lily Tomlin, as Ernestine

When was the last time you had a good long laugh that made your sides ache and yet you couldn’t stop?

Credit Chris Huggins/flickr creative commons.

Credit Chris Huggins/flickr creative commons.

Laughing is one of life’s greatest pleasures and is a marvelous gift to give to yourself. You probably already know about the health benefits that come from laughing, such as the deep breathing and muscle relaxation you experience when you laugh. You probably know that laughing helps you forget about your troubles, even if only for a few short minutes and can help you bring perspective to a difficult situation. Continue reading

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Will You Choose Quality or Quantity at the End of Your Life?

It’s been 56 months since I placed an agonizing call to Iowa Hospice about my dad.

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For most of us, how our life ends is just a roll of the dice. A lucky few can intentionally choose quality or quantity for the number of our days.

 

With that call, he, and all of us, his family, entered the last leg of a journey whose outcome had been set two years earlier.

In the time since a spinal stroke, Dad had become a great-grandfather, had seen Mom sell the house they had lived in for 42 years, had given his most prized possessions – his HAM radio gear – to his only grandson-in-law, and had spent roughly 20,000 hours in a hospital bed or wheel chair. Continue reading

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10 Things to Say When Someone You Love is Getting a Divorce

When someone you care about announces she is getting a divorce, what do you say?

Fortunately for you, there are a lot of options. I’ve listed 10 below, and you’ll know which ones will do the most good for your friend if you start not by doing a lot of talking, but by doing a lot of listening.

 

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A divorce is both a sunset and a sunrise. It is a a time to express regret and sadness for the time that has ended, and anticipation and wonder for the new life that is waiting to start.

A good response is like a good meal. It starts with a small appetizer to appease the hunger, more to nourish and sustain, and ends with a light and satisfying morsel. By listening carefully, you’ll be able to respond with the right words and assure your friend she made the right choice in confiding in you. If you’re a close friend, you’re going to get a lot of opportunity to listen over the coming months. Continue reading

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