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No, Don’t Forgive and Forget

Forgiveness is a great principle. Relationships can’t survive without forgiveness. But there’s a time and a place

Wrought iron fence in a small triangle, English Ivy and other ground cover. Nothing inside the fence.

Your boundaries don’t have to be tall, or solid, they just need to be expressed in ways others can recognize, and strong enough to withstand intrusion.

for everything and forgiving and forgetting have their places. It’s not where you think they may belong.

Have you heard the same promises over and over again and yet nothing changes? Do you feel like you’re repeatedly forgiving for the same transgressions? Continue reading

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What to Say When a Friend is Divorcing

Your friend has just told you that he and his wife are getting a divorce.

What do you say?

If you’re like most people, you can’t find the right words. You want to say something comforting, but you don’t know what to say.

Make no mistake, saying the right thing to a friend who has just announced a pending divorce is difficult. However, your friend

gray haired, plaid shirts, contemplative, somber

The right words in response to bad news provide comfort and support your relationship

knows you’re made of stronger stuff and that’s why he has confided in you. He’s counting on you right now, so it’s time to step up.

There are five parts to a good response that will bring comfort your friend. Continue reading

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Travelled: Knowing Who You Are

Martina McGowan made a brave decision at an early age to be true to herself, and in that moment, she changed the course of her life. You can change the course of your life too. You begin by knowing who you are.

“If you know who you are, no one can define you.

If you know what you stand for, no one can distort you.”

~ Lolly Daskal

Perhaps it is because February is Black History Month that I am suddenly reminded of this story.

I am a native Yankee. My parents, grandparents, etc are all from the South. My great-grandfather was a freed slave.

Knowing Who You Are, LifeIsHOTBlog, Statue of James Meredith on the campus of Mississippi University. Meredith enrolled in Ole Miss after a US Supreme Court ruling enforced desegregation there. Photo courtesy of Creative Commons.

Statue of James Meredith on the campus of Mississippi University. Meredith enrolled in Ole Miss after a US Supreme Court ruling enforced desegregation there. Photo courtesy of Creative Commons.

We often travelled through the deep South visiting relatives who had not moved northward in the great migration seeking better lives.

So, as a small child, Continue reading

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