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If You Don’t Put Yourself First, Who Will?

Do you want to have stronger relationships with others? You might think that having strong relationships with others means to do things for them and to take care of

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When you spend all of your energy and time on others, you deplete your inner resources, leaving nothing for yourself. Put yourself first so that you can enjoy your life and establish connections to others built on authentic relating.

them. It’s a paradox because the truth is, to have strong relationships with others means that you must first have a strong relationship with yourself. To have that strong relationship with yourself, you must do things for yourself. You must put yourself first.

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What Does it Mean to Be True?

What does it mean to be true? It means that you uphold yourself and put your needs first so that you’re able to meet the needs of those you love or are responsible to.

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You love yourself fully when you create a vision for your life and take responsibility for realizing it. Put yourself on the path to reach your dreams.

It means you know your values and are guided by them in all that you do. It also means that you do not do things just to please others when those things violate your values or your boundaries. Sometimes it means you let others be responsible for their feelings and actions. You hold yourself responsible for your own feelings and actions.

Being true is the third component of the Live HOT way of life and the guiding principles to loving yourself.

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Listening and Learning for Lent

Listening is one of my 3 words for 2015.

Sometimes, all you really need is for someone to hear you out.

Listening is something I want to do better this year. In the same way that some people vow to get more exercise or sleep or to spend less time gaming, I’m focused on listening.

This is my focus for the 46 days of Lent that began on February 18, Ash Wednesday. Conventional wisdom says that it takes 21 days to establish a new habit, so at double that, I figure I stand half a chance of realizing success. (Trust me, the math works if you didn’t really listen to what I just said.) 

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