How have you gotten to the point of putting a single word on a pedestal as so offensive that you refuse to say it, even when you’re trying to talk about why it is offensive?
Promoting separate and unequal rules about words and their usage serve to maintain barriers between you rather than to unite you with others.
It’s all right to say nigger if you’re a black person. It’s cause for the charge of committing a hate crime if you speak it while being white.
People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude.
~ John C. Maxwell
Do you know that language spoken with the ears helps you strengthen your relationships with others?
If you want to take advantage of this, then before you speak, take time to think about how your words will be heard. Think about how your words will make others feel.
Do you hear your words the way others hear them?
When you think of your part of a conversation in those terms, your words become softer, sweeter, most positive. You remember that your point of view is just that, your opinion. You understand the messages that will be heard in addition to the facts you convey.
My dad traveled often for work and for the various professional and service organizations in which he was involved. When he retired, he used his extra time to become involved in more organizations.
Winners know what is in their control and what is not, and they do not look at the past because it is not within their control. They look at the present and make a decision about what they control – their attitude and their actions.
In his later years he visited China, and he and Mom went to Australia and to several European countries. One October day he left the house early, drove five hours to a board meeting at a private university, and drove home again. He was in the basement riding his exercise bike when a stroke changed his life.
When he had recovered enough, he was told what had happened. Then he was told he was paralyzed from the bottom of his rib cage on down.