Friday will be the fifth anniversary of my dad’s death. In some ways, my life has moved forward since his death day, the way it does when you work through your grief and get on with your own business of living.
The legacy of a life is not summed up in the anniversary day of death, or in the anniversary day of birth. The legacy is in the great expanse of the life that was lived.
In other ways, I still miss him as though it were only a few days ago when I got the call that it was time to come home and say good-bye. The anniversary of a death day can be a difficult time – it can bring back painful feelings of loss. But then again, it may not.
If Dad were still alive, today he and Mom would be celebrating their 60th anniversary. Because he is not, later today, Mom will receive a beautiful bouquet of flowers from their children, grandchildren and great-grandchildren in Dad’s memory and in honor of their long marriage.
Happy 60th wedding anniversary, Mom and Dad
Opposites attract, and that was certainly true in their case. Although, as Mom would remind me, just being husband and wife is opposite enough. After a short courtship, Dad shipped out to fight in the Korean War. The remainder of their courtship was chronicled in a suitcase full of airmailed letters. When he returned, they married, and for six decades they remained wholly committed to one another.
While many of us may never live to see our 60th anniversary, we can all take steps to ensure our own marriage or partnership lasts a lifetime. Continue reading