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Why You Need to Ask: "Can You Help Me?"

Are you the type of person who asks for help when you need it? Or do you struggle on by yourself, refusing to ask others? When you need help,

Brad W. Smith photographer, trust, “Can you help me?” LifeIsHOTBlog

Sometimes it is hard to recognize when you need help, to say what it is you cannot do, and to accept others’ help graciously. But when you can, you experience freedom from your need for perfection.

regardless of the type of help you need or the person you need it from, just say, sincerely and humbly, “Can you help me?”

I promise you’ll get help with whatever it is that you can’t do – whether it’s changing a tire, working with you at the school fundraiser, or finding a store. Continue reading

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Here’s What I’m Thinking

“Here’s what I’m thinking,” is a phrase I use often in conversations at home, with friends, and at work. I’ve found that it opens the door to a discussion –

Here's What I'm Thinking Brad W. Smith, LifeisHOTBlog two young men, one white, one black, in discussion

When you take the time to engage others in conversation about your decisions, and share with them your rationale, you’re far more likely to gain acceptance, agreement and commitment.

especially when others seem to be reluctant to share an opinion, or to engage in the conversation, or they are not receptive to whatever action I just suggested.

It’s an effective technique at work, and you may already use it there.

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Three Benefits of Living Honest, Open and True

At the beginning of the year I wrote about what it means to Live HOT by being Honest, Open and True. Chances are good you are already living each day by

skeleton key in brass lock of walnut door, Three Benefits of Living Honest, Open and True, Life is HOT blog, Brad W. Smith, photographer,

The key to unlocking better relationships with others is to first create a better relationship with yourself. Then you have the ability to apply those same principles of being Honest, Open and True when you relate to others.

these three elements even if you’ve never thought about it this way. If so, you’re enjoying the rich benefits that come with having a great relationship with yourself and with others, especially with those who are more important to you. I hope you find the Life is HOT blog helpful as you continue your journey, the same way that researching and writing about these topics has helped me.

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