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It’s Not Okay to Be Alone – It’s a Necessity

The most important relationship in your life is not the relationship you have with your parents, or your spouse, or your children. The most important relationship you

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When you learn how to be yourself and how to be comfortable with yourself, you become your own friend, and a better friend to others.

 

have is the relationship you have with yourself.

Yet, it’s the one relationship we are most likely to ignore. In the face of all the competing needs for your time, it’s easy to forget to pay attention to yourself. It’s easy to get so wrapped up in what’s going on around you that you lose sight of yourself. Continue reading

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Change Is Not the Enemy You Think It Is

Today marks the first day of a major change for me at work. The head of our department has left the company and so, starting today, our group will take direction from a different person.

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Grapes go through a gradual process called veraison whereby they transition from green to fully ripened fruit. This internal transformation can be seen in the external changes in color. Once the transition is completed, they are ready to realize their purpose, they are ready to be made into a fine wine.

This is the fourth such change in four years.

Do you know what makes change so hard? It’s not what you think it is. It’s not the change itself, because change happens in an instant. It’s not in your control.

You had a job, now you don’t. You were part of a couple, now you’re single. You were expecting a baby, now you aren’t. Continue reading

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At Least You Had a Choice

“At least you had a choice.”

I still remember the sting of these words when I heard them as a 29-year-old newly divorced single mother. The speaker was an older woman whose husband had died months before my husband and I separated.

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Your grief and pain is unique to you, no matter how outwardly similar it might look to others, and you always deserve compassion.

I was still in my ‘year of firsts,’ while she had passed that milestone.

I don’t remember anything about our conversation before or after that line. I do remember thinking that she was wrong. Continue reading

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