What do you do when someone has let you down? When a promise is not kept, an expectation is not met, an obligation is forgotten, how do you handle it?
We can blame the person who spilled the milk, or ask, how can we prevent the milk from spilling in the future?
If you’re like most people, you blame the person who has disappointed you. Rightfully so, after all, you couldn’t possible be responsible for their failure.
And blame is the best way to solve your problem.
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Not too long ago I read a post by executive coach and Enneagram expert, Wendy Appel, called “The Bamboo Leader.” In it, she likened the qualities of bamboo to desirable qualities within people. Principal among them were the qualities of being flexible, resilient and versatile. She advised that to be a Bamboo Leader, we must seek to understand others through listening to their words and being open to their point of view. She also noted that listening to the words of others is not the same as adopting their point of view.
Strong, flexible and resilient bamboo is equally suited for creating boundaries and protecting itself from what it does not need. Bamboo Forest location: The Grounds for Sculpture, Trenton, NJ
Reading her post made me think about the times we need to reject others points of view and in that way, not listen to them. Sometimes, we need to stop listening so that we can remain true to ourselves and so that we can protect ourselves from hurt and harm. Continue reading
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If you’re like me, you depend upon a global positioning system to help you get around in unfamiliar places. I have one in my car, and another one on my phone. GPS applications have a nifty feature – or an annoying habit, depending on your point of view – of adjusting for driving errors on the fly. While the GPS is making an adjustment, it matter-of-factly intones: “Recalculating.”
Our GPS for life, the one that always helps us find Doing Right, is the moral compass that is deep within us.
We all say we want to do the right thing. And for the most part, we mean it, even when we’re not sure what is right. Continue reading