“You’re too quick to want to be discontent,” the woman said to me on the phone.
I had misunderstood what she meant when she suggested I do something, and had interpreted it in a way that would cost me even more money when I could barely afford the purchase I needed to make.
Without clouds, the sun cannot delight us with color. Without adversity, we cannot know happiness.
I had thought her suggestion impertinent and insensitive, in a ‘let them eat cake’ sort of way. At that moment, I thought all of my plans were broken; I was not going to be able to do what I had set my heart on doing.
I should have trusted that what she was offering was logical and reasonable. I should have trusted that I just needed to work harder to understand her meaning. Continue reading
I think that more than anything else in the world, we are propelled through life by a desire to belong. We want to be a part of, to be considered good enough for, something larger than ourselves. We crave the connection.
When unfaithfulness destroys a connection to someone we love, we sometimes feel we do not belong to anyone or anywhere.
And conversely, when someone shuns us, lies to us, or betrays us on a monumental level, we are deeply hurt because the message is, at least in part, we don’t belong. We’re not as good as, maybe we’re not even good enough. Continue reading
I am a fan of Frank Lloyd Wright architecture. Wright believed architecture should be an organic union of the site, the purpose and the structure. He had a firm vision for his life’s work and he is remembered for adhering to his belief that form, function and materials should be well-integrated and complementary.
Frank Lloyd Wright believed architecture should be an organic union of the site, the purpose and the structure. Our lives can be an organic union of our values and priorities and the roles we fill in our community, profession and family.
One of his most well-known homes is Fallingwater, in southwestern Pennsylvania. The house is perfectly integrated into its surroundings. While elegant in its setting, it is well-suited for its purpose as a summer home. Each element of the home, including the furniture Wright designed (never taller than the bottom of the windows so as to not block the view) is intentional and related to all the other elements.
I think his view of this organic union can be applied as a philosophy for living a well-integrated life, a life for which we want to be remembered. Continue reading