I have been blessed by a random act of kindness many times in my life. The one that wowed me most happened a number of years ago when I was in the process of moving and two friends showed me compassion.
Whether best mates or strangers, we can lend a hand when the need arises simply because at that moment, we can fulfill someone’s need.
The new place was not yet ready for me, so I stored several boxes in a friend’s basement.
Granted, this is not a big deal. It’s something we can easily see ourselves doing. But then, while I was away at a conference, I received a pre-dawn call from her. Rain, and an accidentally unplugged sump pump, meant there were a few inches of water in her basement.
While it’s true that ‘clothes don’t make the man,’ clothes do make the man’s, or woman’s, first impression. We all know what we should wear, and what not to wear, when we want to make a good impression.
Our picture communicates who and what we are long before we utter a thousand words.
But how often do we think about it?
Whether we like it or think it is phony, our physical appearance is a form of communication. A trim and fit body says, “I take care of myself.” A well-dressed one says, “I care about my appearance.” People who want to fit in choose conventional, traditional clothing while those who want to show their creativity choose trendy clothing. Those who want to show their independence or unconventionality may embrace fads, or even engage in costume dressing.
Common wisdom says that we can destroy our integrity in an instant. Common wisdom is wrong.
Our lives are built on integrity. Instant gratification and expediency wear it away and in time, can cause our lives to crumble.
That instant of destruction people refer to is not the moment we lose our integrity, rather it is the moment when the truth is discovered that we do not have integrity. It is at that moment of truth that the façade of who we are implodes and falls to the ground in a heap of rubble.
The truth is that every time we choose to lie about what we are doing, where we have been, or what we profess to be, we are destroying a bit of our integrity. It is only a matter of time before the truth is discovered and the carefully constructed façade is destroyed. Continue reading