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Can’t You Take a Joke?

I’ve been asked, “Can’t you take a joke?” more than a few times, and I bet you have too. Ever notice how it is always after someone has said something that is offensive and disrespectful?

Does the question leave you speechless the way it does me?

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Do we take the time to sit down and listen to ourselves and understand how our words are heard by others? Or do we believe our words to be empty and meaningless and therefore, unimportant?

It’s a lame attempt to cover up for a rude statement by shifting responsibility from the speaker to the listener. The original statement and the ‘joke’ question that follows are disrespectful behavior. They take away from our intimacy and enjoyment of each other.

I have an answer to that question. My answer puts responsibility back where it belongs. Even better, it allows me to maintain my self-respect and show respect for others.

Here’s a hint: it’s not a smart-mouthed comeback.

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When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Start Talking

Are you getting ready to be together with friends and family later today? Does your menu look like this: the

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Today we give thanks for the courage to be who we really are and for all those who give us loving acceptance.

traditional fare, plus gluten-free versions, plus dairy-free alternatives, plus vegan options?

What about the family dynamics? Will there be hushed conversations or knowing looks that say: Don’t let this one have too much to drink. She isn’t speaking to her.  Wonder if he’s still out of work after all this time?

Juggling all the dietary and emotional needs of our families makes it hard to feel thankful and loving, doesn’t it?

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5 Ways to be the Perfect Thanksgiving Host in Difficult Circumstances

This is a busy and important week for most American families as we prepare for Thanksgiving on Thursday.

a hug of support between men, Brad W. Smith photographer Alt: White man, black man, in a hug of friendship in a private home.

We come together to celebrate our relationships with each other, to rejoice in our blessings and support each other in our sorrows.

There’s a lot to be done, especially if you’re the host or hostess. You want everything to be perfect, including the conversation.

With the unemployment rate nationally still at more than 7%, chances are pretty good that one or more of your guests will be unemployed or significantly underemployed. Continue reading

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