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Be Reasonable, Do It My Way

“Be reasonable, do it my way,” was an expression my mother sometimes used in jest when she had what she thought was the best solution for a problem, and was

2 rigging ropes, each formed into a knotted ball and tied to form a weight.

Knots have their useful purpose, and sometimes you have to unravel the knot so that you can achieve a different, and equally useful, purpose.

unable to convince the other person she was right. Of course, while that statement alone didn’t often get Mom what she wanted , wouldn’t your life be great if all your conflicts could be resolved simply by insisting on having your way?

You can have that easier life and resolve your conflicts if, in aiming for resolution, you follow three simple rules.

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The Funny Thing About Hell

Winston Churchill said, “When going through hell, keep going,” and he was right. Despair can be that hell – the feeling that life will always be as awful as it is right now,

Brad W Smith photographer, LifeIsHOTBlog, Funny Thing about Hell Cast bronze of five men in overcoats and hats, lined up outside a brick building about to enter the door.

Especially in our darkest, most bleak moments, we have to keep putting one foot in front of the other; it’s the only way to move through hell to where better times wait.

that nothing will ever change, and perhaps even that you don’t deserve any other kind of life. That’s the funny thing about hell, you can’t tell how big it is or how long the journey through it until that day when you can look back and realize it is now behind you.

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The Choices We Make

Nearly 10 years ago, on May 17, 2004, Bill Cosby gave a speech that stirred up a lot of controversy about how Black people, particularly those in the lower economic community, need to take responsibility for themselves. You can read the speech, and additional commentary, here.

black and white photo, single man in wet suit, shoreline and hillside town in distance

We choose how we navigate through life, catching fair winds and keeping our balance when the going gets rough.

He called people out for their behavior and their choices by saying, if they didn’t apply themselves in school, or dropped out, they can’t blame others because they’re working a minimum wage job. While he was speaking to one portion of the Black community, his words ought to resonate with all of us.

Each of us is personally and unilaterally responsible for every choice we make.

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