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I Missed an Opportunity to Make a Friend

I hoped to have an interesting conversation a few weeks ago with a person I did not know well. She made a claim that caught my attention because it challenged what I know. My thought was, aha, this is an opportunity to get to know her better. This is an opportunity to gain a new friend.

two white women, one older, one younger, on a red sofa, artwork on the wall behind them.

Through conversation, we gain new relationships by exploring new ideas and discovering how they complement, expand, or even change, our beliefs.

We all love to talk. Conversation – the mutual interchange of ideas – is one of the most pleasant experiences we have. Conversation binds us together in new relationships and keeps our existing relationships strong. We confirm we belong when we find common ground and we stretch ourselves when we are open to hearing contrary ideas.

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We’re All Stronger Than the Storm

Earlier this week here in New Jersey and in the region we marked the one-year anniversary of Superstorm Sandy. The news was filled with stories about how

two-story brown clapboard sided house still standing but broken in two pieces when the ground underneath was washed away.

When our lives seem broken in two, we can live in our memories of what was, or we can work out a plan to move forward to what will be.

while much of the shoreline and the communities along the shore have been restored, much work remains. An ad campaign earlier this year proclaimed that New Jersey and its citizens are “stronger than the storm” and featured the rebuilding efforts and the determination of those most affected to not let Sandy be the defining moment in their lives, the moment marking their turn from happy and successful to downtrodden and defeated.

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Avoid These Six Apology Errors

Since we are human, it is inevitable that we will make mistakes. When we do, we need to know how to make amends. One of the steps is to make an effective apology,

front left fender bender with NY yellow

Whether we intend them or not, our actions can have consequences that cause damage. It’s not always easy to make things right, but it is our obligation to accept and acknowledge our responsibility, and to apologize.

one where our only agenda is to heal the damage to the relationship as a result of our words or actions. Research has shown that genuine apologies help us reconnect with those we’ve wronged by letting them know we’re aware that what we’ve done affects them. Yet, so many of us manage to sabotage our own efforts in one or more of these six ways.

 

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