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Five Minute Friday: Beautiful

The most beautiful thing in the world is the relationships we have with our spouses or partners, our family and our friends. Relationships are built on the things we do for one another and the things we say to one another.

a round table with formal place settings for 4, in the woods, next to a blue lake

Our relationships are built on the things we do for one another and the things we say to one another.

Each conversation solidifies our relationship and makes it more meaningful. Each time we’re able to do for each other what is needed, our relationship is made more secure because of the commitment we expressed and the unconditional love we’ve shown.  Continue reading

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The Art of Comforting Someone in Mourning

When someone dies, we often hear ourselves promising to visit or call a person in mourning in the days or weeks following the death and funeral. Sometimes our own promise fosters in us feelings of panic. What do we say? What do we do?

textured gold and silver relief of woman comforting man, from the back.

We can give immense comfort simply through our compassionate presence and our unconditional listening.

Relax. I’ll tell you a secret. There is an art to bringing comfort to those who are in  mourning. That art lies in our ability to listen attentively and compassionately to what they want to say. In other words, when in doubt about what to say, switch from talking to listening. Chances are good that a person who lost a loved one recently needs the gift of unconditional listening more than anything else. Continue reading

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Five Minute Friday: Listen

“Would you just shut up for a minute and listen to me!” I shouted angrily. I drew in a long breath and let it out. Then, quietly, “please?”

2 stuffed bears, one white, one brown, side by side looking out the window at a marina on the Pacific Ocean

When we listen with acceptance and without judgment, we speak volumes about how much we care.

Sometimes all we really want is for someone we love to hear us out. To not interrupt. To not offer interpretation. To do nothing other than to intensely focus on us, and to hang on every word we say. Continue reading

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