When a mistake happens at work or at home, do you dwell on it, or do you experience it, let go of it and move forward from it?
When we let something wash over us, we experience it and are changed by it, but we do not stay immersed in it.
It’s not always easy to let go of a bad experience, but we always have the freedom to choose whether we dwell on it, or move on from it.
A bad experience gives us the chance to learn from our own mistakes and the mistakes of others. It gives us reason to listen carefully in conversation about what went wrong and to listen carefully in conversation about how to handle similar situations differently in the future. Continue reading
Not that long ago two friends of mine ended their long relationship.
When we let words wash over us without listening to them, we fail to understand their meaning.
She eagerly wanted commitment, talked with him about it often, and tried countless ways to impose it upon him. He zealously did not want commitment, openly said so, and consistently maintained his own ways. After several years, she finally listened to him.
The late leadership authority Dr. Stephen Covey cautioned that, “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” Continue reading
In the week since Adam Lanza killed 20 innocent young children and six heroic adults in the town of Newport, Connecticut, many people have proclaimed to know why it happened, or at least who or what to blame.
There are many degrees of truth, but no absolute truths, only absolute beliefs.
Informed only by the limited details reported ad nauseum by media, they’ve reached a conclusion.
Well, I’ve got news for them. For the most part, they’re wrong. They’re wrong because they point to one single answer as though it were the absolute truth. There is no single version of the truth. No One Right Answer. Not for Sandy Hook, not for the fiscal cliff, not for your business, not for a better relationship with your teenager. Truth is a compound substance composed of many beliefs. There is no pure element in the periodic table of life called Truth. Continue reading