Category Archives: Honesty

The Secret about Lying

“People think that a liar gains a victory over

his victim. What I’ve learned is that a lie is an act

of self-abdication, because one surrenders one’s

reality to the person to whom one lies…”

~ Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged

Want better relationships? Want to feel better about yourself? The secret is simple and something that you learned many years ago. It is this: tell the truth when you speak to others about yourself.

3 white round porch pillars, each on brick foundational piling

You build a strong foundation for close relationships with others when you exhibit credibility, integrity and trust.

Intentionally creating a false belief – lying – creates barriers between you and other people. When you lie, your motivation, at least in part, is to make others like you better, or to make decisions in your favor, or to cover up an embarrassing mistake you’ve made.

You lie to maintain the illusion of high personal value, or personal wealth, in the eyes of others.

Continue reading

Leave a Comment

Filed under Honesty

8 Good Life Tips

The secret to having a good life is to live every day by being true to yourself, no matter what comes your way. Sometimes that is much, much easier said than done.

man sitting outdoors on wood bench

When you invest yourself, you have better relationships with others.

When you have the best relationship with yourself that you can have, then you’re in position to have the best relationships with everyone in your life: your lover, children, co-workers, even the clerks, officers and workers you encounter daily. Continue reading

Leave a Comment

Filed under Honesty

You Can Stop People from Deceiving You

You can’t stop someone from intentionally lying to you, but you can stop them from deceiving you.

 We are never deceived; we deceive ourselves.

~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

The first step is to choose to be aware that some people in your life are less than honest about their accomplishments and experiences. What they say may have elements of truth, but they marshal those facts in a way to give you a wholly false understanding of themselves. Your misunderstanding is not accidental, and it is up to you to uncover the deceptions if you want your relationship to be built on honesty.   Continue reading

Leave a Comment

Filed under Honesty