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If You Want to be Happy, Learn to be Grateful

If you believe that you’re supposed to be happy, then you want to know this: if you want to be happy, learn to be grateful. It’s being grateful that puts you on the one-way

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It’s easy to feel happy about big things like a negative medical test result or a long-sought and deserved pay raise. If you want to feel happy all the time, learn to be grateful for the small things in life.

road to happiness. You can’t reach happiness any other way. And, you will never reach gratitude if you wait until you feel happy. This is true for the simple reason that happiness comes from within, not from what or who is around you or things that happen to you or that don’t happen to you.

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If You Don’t Put Yourself First, Who Will?

Do you want to have stronger relationships with others? You might think that having strong relationships with others means to do things for them and to take care of

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When you spend all of your energy and time on others, you deplete your inner resources, leaving nothing for yourself. Put yourself first so that you can enjoy your life and establish connections to others built on authentic relating.

them. It’s a paradox because the truth is, to have strong relationships with others means that you must first have a strong relationship with yourself. To have that strong relationship with yourself, you must do things for yourself. You must put yourself first.

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A Different Way to Handle a Death Anniversary

Friday will be the fifth anniversary of my dad’s death. In some ways, my life has moved forward since his death day, the way it does when you work through your grief and get on with your own business of living.

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The legacy of a life is not summed up in the anniversary day of death, or in the anniversary day of birth. The legacy is in the great expanse of the life that was lived.

In other ways, I still miss him as though it were only a few days ago when I got the call that it was time to come home and say good-bye. The anniversary of a death day can be a difficult time – it can bring back painful feelings of loss. But then again, it may not.

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