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Fall in Love with Yourself

Ever have a time in your life when you really haven’t liked yourself? If you don’t like yourself, it’s hard to love yourself. If you have fallen out of love with

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You may not be all that you have imagined you could be, or all that you might have been. You are, however, enough, just as you are. Love yourself, just as you are.

yourself, let yourself fall in love again.

Maybe you’re not making as much money as you think you should. Or, you’re out of shape and overweight, your career has stalled, your looks have faded. The dreams that were still in front of you are now, irrevocably, behind you, never to be realized.

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A Memorial Day Reflection on Military Service

Many veterans talk about how their military service changed them in positive ways, making them focused, determined, confident, all traits they gained during their

Brad W. Smith photographer, LIfeishotblog commitment Memorial Day Military Service

They took to their graves what it meant to them to serve their country.

military training and hone through experience. They carry those traits with them for the rest of their lives.

What they don’t talk about the ugly parts of military service. The fear they feel before a battle. Or the regrets for actions or decisions taken or not taken. They also don’t talk about the guilt for the ones who llost their lives in military service, those who we remember today, Memorial Day.

It starts with the enlistment oath to defend and protect our Constitution that every enlistee takes.

This is what they affirm:

“I do solemnly swear (or affirm) that I will support and defend the constitution of the United States against all enemies, foreign and domestic; that I will bear true faith and allegiance to the same; and that I will obey the orders of the President of the United States and the orders of the officers appointed over me, according to regulations and the Uniform Code of Military Justice. So help me God.”

If you are active or retired military personnel, thank you for your service. You have touched more lives than you will ever know. There is one more thing you need to do for your country and all of us who live in it. You need to tell us what it is like to be afraid and yet to go forward. You need to tell us what its like to regret what happens in war,  even as you know it is unavoidable. You need to tell us what it means to you that you lived to come home from war while others did not.

We relate to one another through a framework of shared experiences. Those things that remain hidden create barriers between us. If you don’t tell your story, how can the rest of us understand what war, or military service, really means? How do we understand your sacrifice?

Live Honest, Open and True

Today, If you are not a veteran, make an effort to thank the veterans you know for their service to you.

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Putting Conditions on Unconditional Love

To decide to love someone unconditionally can be an easy choice to make, and it can be an impossibly hard commitment to keep. It’s easy when the other person

Putting Conditions on Unconditional Love, clown fish, blue sea anemone, Life is HOT blog, Brad W. Smith, photographer

No matter how much you love someone, no matter how closely you identify with that person, sometimes you must choose to maintain your boundaries and keep your distance.

is your sweet young child, or your cuddly pet. It’s hard when you cannot agree with many of the things the other person says or does. This is particularly true when the other person repeatedly violates your personal boundaries.

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