Why do you let words have power over you? I heard from some readers after I wrote about the controversary of using either ‘the n-word’ or the actual word. Some were offended that I dared to say
Words can hurt, and when you let them, they fester and become your master. To free yourself from the power of those words over you, take back the power through repeated use, until you have reduced them to mere words on paper.
nigger, even when calling it an offensive word. Some agreed that using substitutions for the word creates further barriers.
More than one suggested that using it repeatedly takes the power away from the word as a pejorative, the way homosexuals adopted use of the word queer and made it their own. (Remember, the original meaning of queer was ‘strange,’ or ‘odd,’ and only later did it become a slur.) Continue reading
We’re all part of team. Whether it’s a work team bound together by responsibility or the team called our family who are bound by blood and law, we’re on the team and we have an important role.
As a leader at work or at home, we can spot the players we do not need and ask them to leave the game.
Every team member is valuable and important, but the truth is, there are seven players we do not need on our team. We do not need them because rather than being team players, they engage in self-serving behaviors. They don’t play with us, they play against us. Continue reading
Today we honor and remember Martin Luther King, Jr., a man who above all else, was governed by personal boundaries and values.
Martin Luther King, Jr., gave his ‘I Have a Dream’ speech at the Lincoln Memorial.
While Martin Luther King, Jr. was killed when I was too young to comprehend his significance, my parents taught me those same values.
I spent some time recently reading his famous quotes and was struck by how my own principles parallel his. I have codified my values in my own eight Life Amendments. I use this code of conduct to go forward in life assured I am adhering to my precious values.
If we are to go forward, we must go back
and rediscover those precious values – that
all reality hinges on moral foundations
and that all reality has spiritual control.
~ Martin Luther King, Jr.
When I look at my Life Amendments, I see Martin Luther King, Jr’s influence on my life and see how his dream lives on. His dream lives on in all of us through our actions and words.