I’ve always said that what matters to you is what is most important when it comes to making decisions about your life. Sometimes life brings you a tremendous opportunity and your priorities have to change if you’re going to take advantage of it. That’s
the situation I find myself in, and regrettably I’ve had to come to the truth that I need to make room in my life to take advantage of it. Truth is best delivered straight and so, here it is: this is my last blog post for the Life Is HOT blog. It has not been an easy decision. I know, you didn’t see this coming. Neither did I. In fact, I spent last quarter working on plans to relaunch this blog. Life is like that sometimes. Boom.
Change happens in an instant. Dealing with it can take as long as you want or need it to.
I’ve learned a lot over the past three years and 300+ posts, and I know that some of my posts have helped each of you come to understand your life, others’ situations, and how to have a better relationship with yourself so that you can have better relationships with others.
Making Room for My First Dream
I started the blog as a way to talk about those things that people find hard to talk about – death, dying, grief, dealing with broken engagements and other difficult subjects we face in the ups and downs of life. I even created a series of print-on-demand cards. The idea was that you could order the one you want, have it sent to you so that you could add your personal message and sign it. But the print-on-demand greeting card services couldn’t recognize the need for such cards dealing forthrightly with difficult subjects and rejected the idea. My dream didn’t include creating my own print-on-demand business. So I changed the dream of the card business to one of a community for people looking to understand themselves better and to grow in their ability to have meaningful relationships.
Over time, the purpose of the community narrowed to one fundamental message: love yourself because having a better relationship with yourself is the key to having better relationships with others. I defined that self love using the same HOT principles I’d started with:
- Be Honest about your values and align your actions with your words.
- Be Open to change, be open to different ideas, be open to new points of view. Recognize that you can allow others see things differently without compromising yourself.
- Be True to you by loving yourself and honoring your relationship with yourself.
Making Room for a Bigger Community
Now, I have a new idea, one that is related in that it is focused on helping people who are experiencing a specific difficult time in their lives. But it is far different from this blog, and far bigger than anything I can do by myself. While I’ve always been one to make the most of the margins in life – the early morning hours before the work day begins, evenings after family obligations are fulfilled, foregoing a clean house to have time to write (yeah, big sacrifice) – I need to carve out more time. Unlike love, time does not multiple when there’s more to be covered.
Making Room for a Bigger Dream
It’s going to take some time to fully create this new idea. All I want to say right now is that I’m excited, energized and committed to it, and, you’re going to love it.
Sometimes you have to be willing to let go of a small dream in order to receive a larger dream. The Life is HOT community has fulfilled its purpose to help you – and certainly me – think about those parts of life and ourselves that we may otherwise avoid.
The Life is HOT Facebook Group will continue and I urge each of you to share your journey, your insights, your humor, and your successes in living life Honest, Open and True. And, I invite you to check out The Adversity Within, a blog written by Tim J. Lawrence. He is the only other blogger I’ve met who addresses life’s nasty problems, disappointments and set-backs with honesty.
Thank you to my team of friends who have helped me with the Life is HOT blog. I appreciate your support, your belief in me and in the mission, and most of all, I appreciate your expertise that you’ve shared with me. You’ve made me a better person.
Finally, a big Iowa heartfelt thank you to each and every reader. It’s for you that I have done all of this. Let me leave you with one final idea, one that I wish was my own, but I’ve shamelessly stolen it from someplace now-forgotten: when a door closes, open it, that’s how doors work.
Yes, life goes on, and so will you, and so will I. May you fare well in your journey.
Live Honest, Open and True
This is the end of the Life is HOT Blog, but don’t let it be the end of your quest for a better relationship with yourself, and better relationships with all the people in your life.
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