Are you preparing to go it alone for the holidays? Hanukkah. Solstice. Christmas. Kwanzaa. New Year’s. If you are without family or if you are away from your family, you don’t have to face the holidays alone.
Rather than be alone, invest in your relationships with friends, and let others invest in their relationship with you.
The first Christmas I not only spent the day away from all of my family, I didn’t get to celebrate with any family members at all during the season. It wasn’t just a time of being away from family. I was moving from a house I’d sold to a new apartment that was two months late in being ready, the court had finalized my divorce just days before, and I’d had to have my cat put to sleep the day before Christmas.
The truth is, my life sucked.
Invest in Your Relationships
What made that year more bearable was that I shared my truth with my friends. And they, in turn, stepped up to make sure I wasn’t all alone. Some were close friends, some were not so close, but they clearly cared about me and they were willing to support me when I needed their support. They knew my circumstances because I shared it with them. I asked them for their help and for their support.
They let me know they cared.
Rather than isolating myself with a private pity party, I made my relationships with my friends a priority. I invested in those relationships by asking for help when I needed it. I let them invest in their relationship with me by accepting the help they offered.
Let Your Friends Support You
If you’re alone this holiday when you’d rather be with friends or family, or feeling alone because you’ve lost a loved one or for some other reason, your life is at a low point, reach out and let others know what you need. Share your truth. Let them know you need them. Don’t let your pride stand in the way. Let yourself be vulnerable and let yourself accept support from others.
Your pain, whatever it is, won’t disappear when you do this. Your problems, whatever they may be, won’t be resolved. What will happen is that the support you accept from your friends can alleviate your isolation and stress. You don’t have to face the holidays alone and if you let your friends know your truth, you won’t have to.
Live Honest, Open and True
What opportunity has been offered to you this week to ask others for help? Make a decision to ask for help, even if you think you don’t need it. Who are you grateful to for their help, whether unexpected or asked for? Share the lessons that are offered to you this week over on our Facebook Group
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