Why Saying and Hearing “No” is for Your Own Good

Remember when your parents would tell you no, you couldn’t do something you desperately thought you just had to do?

Saying No. LifeisHOTBlog, D'Anne Hotchkiss

Are you scared to hear “No?” Are you afraid to say “No” to others? Don’t let an illusion stop you from making the change you need to make.

And then, if that wasn’t bad enough, they’d follow it up by saying, “This is for your own good.”

The thing is, being told no is sometimes exactly what you need to hear. Sometimes it is because you lack the perspective or experience to see why what you want is a bad idea.

“No” Means it is Time to Make a Change

Sometimes it’s because hearing no is the kick in the pants that will make you buckle down and work harder, try again, or finally understand that what you’re doing now isn’t what you ought to be doing if you want to reach a particular goal.

When your goal is to lose 10 pounds and you eat a bowl of ice cream every night, the scales are telling you no when the needle refuses to budge. The scales are telling you no, you need to change.

When you are addicted to drugs or alcohol and the house rule is that you can only live here clean and sober, and you repeatedly violate that rule, hearing no, you can’t live here any longer tells you that you need to change.

The scales don’t care what you weigh. But the person you’ve made the agreement with to live clean and sober or to live somewhere else, does.

Hearing No is for your own good. Saying No to someone else is for your own good as well. It is honoring the agreement you made and keeping a boundary you have set.

Live Honest, Open and True

Listen to the No’s in Your life and say Yes to the opportunity to make a change. Say No when others are not taking what you have to say seriously and refuse to honor the agreements they have made with you.

Is it hard for you to hear others say “No” to you? Do you struggle with making others believe you have a limit when it comes to accepting a certain type of behavior? Stop by our  Life is HOT blog Facebook Group and leave a comment or tweet me @LifeIsHOTBlog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!

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