So what do you think? Is this true?
“My true value as an individual depends on what others think of me.”
If I had to guess, most people would be quick to say no, that’s not true. But I’d also guess that some of those people secretly believe it is true. If you’re one of those people, this post is for you.
Certain assumptions about your life can be counterproductive. Believing that your true value as an individual depends on what others think of you is certainly one of them.
This is not to say that the ideas we have about others’ ideas about us are not important. Even if you staunchly claim you don’t care what others think, that’s not likely to be true either. We are social beings, and we want to be part of the tribe.
However, your life will be more productive and, more satisfying, if you let go of this negative and erroneous belief.
This belief is based on the idea that everyone must like you and it’s your responsibility to make sure they do. So here’s a secret, your relationship with yourself will be better and therefore your relationship with others will be better also, if you can dump that belief and replace it with these two ideas:
If you need others to tell you that you are okay in order to feel good about yourself, then you need to work on liking yourself.
So do this:
- Take a personal inventory of all of your strengths and good qualities.
- Keep a journal of good things you do each day.
- When you start to doubt your worth, review your journal.
Your Personal Appraisal
- How do you see yourself?
- What makes you happy?
- Are you willing to change an attribute about yourself that you dislike to change that attribute to one that you do like?
Live Honest, Open, and True
It’s easy to get caught up in thinking about what others think about you. The only opinion about you that matters is the one you hold about yourself. You are who you choose to be, you only need to change to please yourself.