Fall in Love with Yourself

Ever have a time in your life when you really haven’t liked yourself? If you don’t like yourself, it’s hard to love yourself. If you have fallen out of love with

Fall in love with yourself top-down look at a crowded bouquet of faded roses

You may not be all that you have imagined you could be, or all that you might have been. You are, however, enough, just as you are. Love yourself, just as you are.

yourself, let yourself fall in love again.

Maybe you’re not making as much money as you think you should. Or, you’re out of shape and overweight, your career has stalled, your looks have faded. The dreams that were still in front of you are now, irrevocably, behind you, never to be realized.

And so, you hate your body, your career, your past decisions, the breaks you didn’t get, your life. With all of that hate, how can you like yourself?

“It’s not your job to like me – it’s mine.”

~ Byron Katie

You’re telling yourself a story about yourself. A story that you don’t like – who would! Then, you use that story to not like yourself.

The problem lies in the fact that you’re comparing yourself to others, or to a younger version of yourself, or some arbitrary expectations you placed on yourself.

It’s false thinking to extrapolate from disappointments, or setbacks, or unfulfilled goals, or especially from negative comparisons to others, that you’re unworthy of your own love.

How to Fall in Love with Yourself

Your love for yourself does not rest in external accomplishments. What makes you worthy of your own love

are those qualities that cannot be compared to others, qualities that are within you.

Think of the people you admire or enjoy being with. Name the qualities that attract you to them. Are those qualities related to their physical appearance, job title, bank account or unfailing string of accomplishments? More than likely, what attracts you is their spirit, likeability, generosity, sense of fun, concern for others, authenticity, or similar qualities that live within them.

Which of those qualities do you yourself possess as well? What other good qualities do you have? Let yourself fall in love with all of those good qualities. Remind yourself you are worthy of your own love, just because you are you.

“Scarcity of self value cannot be remedied

by money, recognition, affection, attention or influence.”

~ Gary Zukav

Your Personal Appraisal

  • How often do you tell yourself you deserve a good day, or success in an endeavor?
  • What things do you do to take good care of physical yourself?
  • When was the last time you attended to your emotional needs?
  • Do you evaluate most of your actions as ‘good enough’ or ‘I should have done better’?

Live Honest, Open and True

Feeling that you don’t like yourself? When you don’t love yourself, it’s impossible to like yourself. Start now in learning to love yourself by being kind and gentle with yourself. Every day tell yourself you are enough, just the way you are. Every day let others love you. Every day, continue to grow in how much you love yourself. 

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