Love Is an Action Not a Feeling

Love has been called the most powerful emotion. But real love isn’t a feeling at all. Love is an action, and because we choose our actions, giving our love to

Love is an Action not a Feeling, woman laughing as she is licked enthusiastically by large black dog, a mix of black lab and beagle.

Love is felt and expressed through a series of actions that we choose to make.

others is a series of choices that we make. There are many different kinds of love, and the most enduring one is unconditional love, love that you give when you have made the decision to accept another person fully and totally.

Unconditional love is acted upon, or expressed, through honesty, openness and truthfulness. When you express your love this way, you allow yourself to have empathy, compassion, and respect for others.

Be Ready to Receive Love in Action

Like so many things that I talk about on this blog, allowing yourself to give unconditional love improves your relationship with others. But it only works as long as you let yourself be vulnerable to receiving their love in return. You cannot give love unconditionally if you do not both love yourself unconditionally, and allow yourself to receive love unconditionally. When you give unconditional love to yourself, you improve your relationship with yourself because you’re free from those things that have held you back from fully realizing your abilities.

In ancient times, cities were enclosed behind walls to protect the inhabitants from outside influences – ranging from floods to thieves – and to offer privacy from others in the community, to mark independence, and to symbolize power.

Like the walls that protect a city’s inhabitants from outside threats, the walls you build around yourself protect you. They also isolate you.

To give others unconditional love, you have to be ready to receive unconditional love in return. You can only do that if you’re willing to first tear down the walls you have build around yourself.

“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn

is unconditional love, which includes not 

 only others but ourselves as well.”

~ Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Your Personal Appraisal

We all want to be loved unconditionally, despite our short-comings, our failings, our ugly moments.

  • How easy is it for you to ask others what they need from you?
  • How easy is it for you to tell others what you need from them?
  • When was the last time you gave something to someone without expecting anything in return?
  • What happened when you did that?
  • It is harder to love others or harder to love yourself without conditions?

Live Honest, Open and True

Unconditional love brings you the truest, deepest and most rewarding relationships you can have with others, and with yourself. You can choose to practice unconditional love every day, and you can commit to giving unconditional love to the most important people in your life. Begin by choosing to give yourself unconditional love.

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Do you find unconditional love an easy choice to make? Have you ever had to struggle with a decision to love unconditionally or to stop loving unconditionally? Tell me about it in the comments or tweet me @lifeishotblog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!

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