Let your tongue speak what your heart thinks.
~ Davy Crockett
It can be hard to say what you really mean in a conversation. Sometimes it’s hard because you struggle to find the right words.
Sometimes it’s hard because something within you holds you back from simply saying what you really mean.
That something can be a need to control or manipulate others, to make them feel guilty, or to keep your feelings hidden. Perhaps you experienced these forms of communication as a child. Perhaps you saw how others made these work for them. Perhaps you’ve never have good communicators to learn from.
Speaking the truth by stating directly what you want or need or what you feel has two benefits. First, you will be amazed by how good you feel about yourself. Second, you will be rewarded with stronger connections and better relationships with others.
Today, just say it. If you need something, ask for it directly. If you feel something, state what you’re feeling. If you have an issue with someone, resolve it by talking about it directly with that person.
You do not need to be judgmental, tactless, blaming or harsh when you speak your truths. You also do not need to hide who you really are by only saying what you think others want to hear. You do not need to be careful about what you say to others lest they get angry, go away or stop liking you.
Live Honest, Open and True
Today, let your engagement with others be based on being honest with yourself and with them by saying what you really mean.
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