Whether you know it or not, you have been paying attention to those negative beliefs you’ve been telling yourself. You know you have been paying attention to
your negative self talk because you feel rotten about parts of yourself. Even if you also tell yourself those beliefs are not true, there’s a part of you that can’t let go of those negative beliefs.
You contain both positive and negative thoughts and behaviors. Both the good and bad are parts of you, but you may not recognize both sides. The good news is that since you already recognize the negative side, you can more readily recognize the positive side that you’re missing. By acknowledging the missing positive side, you can move on to make them part of your complete self.
Whatever your negative thoughts and behaviors, that you’re passive, anxious, or vindictive, for instance, whatever it is you believe about yourself, accept it as part of yourself and look for ways to increase the positive side of it or to hold on to the thought without acting on it.
If you are passive, learn to asset yourself. If you feel anxious, hold on to the feeling without taking your anxiety out on others. If you feel vindictive, resist the urge to punish.
This is part of paying attention to and placing importance on what you feel, want and need. This is part of taking care of the person you’re responsible for taking care of – yourself.
When you learn how to do this consistently, you will know happiness in the form of acceptance for the complete you, the work-in-progress you.
Live Honest, Open and True
Building positive behaviors and thoughts, while also accepting your negative behaviors and thoughts, you build a rich, complete picture of who you are and all that you have to offer to yourself and to others. Pay attention to what you tell yourself and embrace all of who you are. Doing so will bring you closer to yourself and you closer to the people important to you. I believe in you and want the best for you and know you can achieve the best for yourself.
Would you share this post?
Tweet: Listen to What You Say to Yourself, a blog post by D’Anne Hotchkiss
Begin telling yourself the opposite, positive message each time you give yourself a negative one. Share how it makes you feel in a tweet to @lifeishotblog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!