Do you have a cheap person in your life?
I do not mean someone who does not like to spend money, I am talking about a person who is cheap with emotions. A cheap person is one who is not honest with his words.
He doesn’t mean what he says. He makes promises he has no intention or way of keeping. He may not say what he means.
A cheap person can also be:
- Miserly with compliments
When he speaks, his words cut a little bit. Those little cuts may go unnoticed when they occur, or you might consciously be aware of them but dismiss them. It was just a little cut. Over time, those little slices whittle away at your soul and heart. They reduce you and reshape you.
When there’s a cheap person in your life, you have three choices:
- Maintain the relationship in full knowledge of his short-comings and understanding you will never get what you deserve because he is not able to give it.
- Drastically reduce your contact with him.
- Cut him out of your life completely. You don’t need him.
The one choice you do not have is to allow the relationship to go on while you continue to act as though there is nothing wrong. This means that you need to consciously recognize when he is being cheap. Be bold and acknowledge it to him as well when he doesn’t keep his promises, or when he is being dismissive, rude, narrow-minded, irrational, unreasonable, inconsiderate, selfish, or fails to compliment when it is your due. Call him on it. It might not change his behavior, but it will change how you look at yourself and will serve to remind you he is cheap.
“Honesty is an expensive gift,
so don’t expect it from cheap people.”
Life Is Honest, Open and True: When you recognize a cheap person, you have three options. You can severe the relationship, reduce your level of contact, or maintain the relationship while understanding it will never give you what you deserve. The one thing you cannot do is continue to act as though you’re not dealing with a cheap person.
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