I have a very good friend who is a wonderful person, yet he struggles in vain to be able to admit he is wrong, about almost anything, no matter how small or inconsequential. He has not yet learned it is better to admit you’re wrong than to maintain the façade of being right.
He will go to great lengths to justify, explain, link or obfuscate what he just said a minute ago to something that is the polar opposite.
You might know someone just like my friend. You might even struggle just like my friend.
You already know that admitting a mistake and then taking responsibility for it is not easy.
Here’s what you may not know, here’s the part about why admitting you’re wrong can be better than maintaining the façade of being right.
Admitting you’re wrong gives you the freedom and the joy of being humanly imperfect. As hard as it is to admit you’re wrong, it is incredibly liberating to free yourself from the burden of always being right.
Admitting you’re wrong feeds your self-respect because you’ve held yourself accountable for your words and actions. It takes courage to reveal your imperfect self to others, and proving you have that courage feeds your self-esteem.
While it might feel better in the short-term to hide from your own mistakes, what really happens is that people lose their respect for you and they no longer trust you. Respect and trust are necessary for relationships. Disrespect and distrust are barriers to relationships.
When you make an effort to be honest, open and true, people respect you and trust you. They see you as a confident leader because they know that you value honesty, you value truth, and you are open to revealing the real you.
“The secret to being wrong isn’t to avoid being wrong!
The secret is being willing to be wrong.
The secret is realizing that wrong isn’t fatal.”
~ Seth Godin
Your Personal Appraisal
- When you’ve made a mistake, do you own up to it or try to hide from it?
- Do you accept yourself as humanly imperfect or beat yourself up for it?
- Do you dwell on your mistake, or learn from it?
- Are you ready to experience the freedom of imperfection?
Life Is Honest, Open and True: Everyone makes mistakes, and admitting yours will give you self-respect and the respect of others. Pretending you’re right no matter what chips away your relationships because it erodes trust. Today, take time to consider your actions and words and how they help you build trust and respect in your relationships.
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