“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Even if you have never heard this quote before, no doubt you have heard the idea that it’s the tough things in life that make you
stronger. So, what really happens after you do the thing you think you cannot do?
It’s the tough things you do that show you what you’re really made of. When you’ve lived through that thing you think you cannot do – a prolonged job loss, devastating illness, death of a loved one, divorce, committed a loved one to a treatment program, kicked a family member out for chronically failing to follow house rules, no matter what it is, when you finally emerge on the other side of it and can see it in the rearview mirror, there’s always that moment of recognition. That moment when you say to yourself, ‘I did it! I made it. I am stronger than I ever thought possible.’
That’s the moment when you realize that you see yourself differently than you did before. That’s the moment when you realize that you have more courage than you thought possible. That’s the moment when you begin to develop a different kind of relationship with yourself.
You begin to have greater appreciation for your own courage. You see yourself as stronger and more capable than you thought you could ever be. You realize that while you don’t ever want to have to go through that kind of experience ever again, that if you should have to, you now know that you can.
Your Personal Appraisal
- Is some part of your life at a crossroads?
- What is your ‘thing’ you must do that you think you cannot do?
- What is holding you back?
- How do you think you would feel if you were somehow able to do this thing?
- How would your life change if you were to make a big change?
Life Is Honest, Open and True: It’s easier to do things that are difficult when you realize the stronger relationship you will create with yourself in the process. Although it seems impossibly difficult, I know you have the strength and courage to make the best effort you can. No matter whether you reach your goal on your first try or your hundredth, or never, you will have a better relationship with yourself.
Today, take time to:
- Make an honest assessment of what outcome you want from your difficult situation.
- Open your heart and mind to receive the compassionate wisdom of others, even when it cuts a little too close to the truth.
- Consider whether you are being true to you by continuing on the path you are on or whether you need to switch to a different path.
Do you have an experience to share about how you struggled to find the courage you needed to do the thing you thought you could not do? Tell me about it in the comments or tweet me @lifeishotblog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!
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