We all need heartfelt conversations. Sometimes you need a heartfelt expression of your innermost feelings, and other times, to hear what others want to tell you about their
observations about some part of your life – whether that observation is good, bad, or even downright ugly.
This past week I have had the pleasure of listening to two of my closest friends openly share with me their observations about a portion of my life. Their words were kind, and just as importantly, their words were frank. While neither criticized me, their messages were clear. I need to make some changes, for my own sake.
What You Learn When You Listen with Your Heart
It’s funny how you rarely see yourself the way others see you, and how sometime a part of your life that is obscured to you is crystal clear to those who love you.
In times like this, when others have something important to tell you, it is paramount to stay open to receive their words and understand their meaning. I think I did a pretty good job of staying open, even when the words were tough to hear. I accepted the wisdom of what they said, considered it, kept what makes sense for me, let them know what I will be doing, and thanked them for their concern and their advice.
It can be impossibly hard to keep an open mind and an open heart when someone is making less-than-laudatory observations about your life. As hard as it is for you, it is no easier for the other person. After all, each of my friends was concerned about how I would receive her words. True friends know that sometimes it is necessary to risk a few bruises to a relationship. Like a doctor whose actions are necessary for the patient to get well and yet cause the patient pain, their words caused pain and yet were necessary for my well-being. And so, they each spoke out in love and with care to choose words that are honest and yet gentle. They spoke from their hearts. And I, I chose to hear with my heart.
What’s most interesting is that what has changed in my life as a result of those conversations is not what you might expect. What has changed is how I see my relationships with these women. Now, based on a new perspective and buoyed by the knowledge of their care and support, I can choose to make changes, or I can hide from the things that need to be changed.
Live Honest, Open and True
The next time someone speaks to you about you, remember to put the T in H E A R so you can use your H E A R T to receive her words. You will be rewarded with a feeling of connection, and you may learn some things that you can use to change your life to make it better.
What about you? Is it easy or hard for you to bring your heart to hearing others? Have you ever spoken to someone about a difficult topic and heard the heart in your own words? Tell me about it in the comments or tweet me @lifeishotblog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!
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