One definition of insanity is to continue doing the same thing but to expect a different result. Too often I see otherwise sane and intelligent people act as though they
always have, and yet expect that a relationship, health, or job situation will change in precisely the way they want.
It’s easy to tell yourself that others must do the changing. You don’t have to do anything except sit back and wait. Your wish is your command.
Except, your wish is only your wish. If you really expect things to change, then you have to be the one to make the change.
If you don’t like how things are going in your job, your relationship with your spouse or children, your health, your social life, or in any other aspect of your life, then change is necessary.
You’re the only one who has the knowledge and the authority to make yourself happy.
Why We Don’t Change
Sometimes, when we recognize that we must be the one to make the change, we tell ourselves things like:
- It’s not really that bad.
- I don’t know where to start.
- It’ll get better on its own.
- I can’t do anything about it.
- If I just wait it out, the problem will resolve itself.
- If only someone else would stop (or start) doing that.
We do those things because it takes courage and effort to make a change. It’s easy to think that maintaining the status quo requires less courage and effort.
What if I told you that’s a false equation?
What if I told you it takes just as much courage to continue doing what you’ve been doing?
What if I told you it takes just as much effort to continue doing what you’ve been doing?
Getting Started with Change
No one is asking you to change everything in your life. You don’t even have to make all the changes all at once. In fact, please don’t.
It’s just you, asking yourself to take the same courage and effort and redirect it. Start with admitting that the situation you’re in has to change. Admit that it scares you and that you have no idea how to start or even where to go to find out.
Congratulations. Now you have a task list to get you started. First on the list: go find out what I need to do to change my situation.
The thing is, we all know nothing changes if nothing changes.
I know that you deserve to live the best life that you can have. I also know that you have everything you need to make that happen.
I know that when you start making changes, whether in your employment, your relationships, your health, you start to enjoy your life more. You enjoy yourself more too because nothing says, ‘I matter’ like standing up for yourself.
What Comes with Change
We all deserve to live the best life that we can possibly have. Not a flawless life, just the best life that we can have. You already know that if you don’t do anything, a year from now your situation will at best be the same, and may well be worse.
What you can’t know right now is how much progress you can make in a year if you start now to make changes. You may not get all the way to your goal in a year. You certainly won’t if you don’t start and don’t keep up a steady effort. No matter how slow your progress, it’ll be better than doing nothing.
I know you can do it. I’m rooting for you to find your courage and to succeed in your change.
Life Is Honest, Open and True: Change requires courage as well as action. Change comes more easily when we recognize that making a change is no harder than enduring our present situation. Most importantly, change is easiest to accept when we believe that we deserve the best life we can have.
What in your life needs to change right now? What is holding you back? Tell me about it in the comments or tweet me @lifeishotblog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!