You might not think that moving requires a lot of listening, but it does. To start with, there’s the listening to lawyers and bankers, inspectors and appraisers, real estate
agents, and finally, the buyer. That’s just to facilitate the property transfer. Then there’s moving agents and workmen to get everything packed and loaded, and then stored.
Listening is exhausting and at times overwhelming.
There are also the emotionally rewarding opportunities to listen – to our friends who have wished us luck, expressed their sadness, and asked us to come stay with them.
What all these conversations have in common is that important information is being relayed, and hearing it accurately requires careful listening to make sure I accurately interpret what is meant and correctly understand what I need to do.
One of the most important aspects of listening is understanding. It’s not enough to hear the words, you have to go deeper to understand the ‘why’ behind the ‘what.’
Some of the time these past few weeks I have done all of this well, sometimes only average, and sometimes, I have utterly failed. You probably have your own experiences of listening well and listening poorly. Fortunately, by being aware of when we succeed and when we fail, we can learn how to have more successes, and fewer failures.
“Listening is not understanding the
words of the question asked, listening
is understanding why the question
was asked in the first place.”
Your Personal Appraisal
- How well do you listen to others?
- When is it hard for you to listen, without being defensive?
- When you want someone to listen to you, how do you approach the opportunity?
- Do your friends have to repeat themselves and reiterate their stance when talking to you?
Life Is Honest, Open and True
The ability to really listen is important because frequently what people say is not want they mean for others to understand. Today, take time to:
- Allow empty silence in conversations so that you and others may engage in honest reflection. When it is time to speak, speak the truth, you owe it to others to speak honestly.
- Approach a difficult subject with love and an open mind.
- Remind yourself every day that true listening requires practiced attention.