New Jersey in the Rearview Mirror

One week from today I will realize a long-delayed dream of moving away from New Jersey. When I moved here in 2000 from Iowa, it was with the intention of staying at

LifeIsHOTBlog, Brad W. Smith photographer, edge of the ocean along the Jersey shore, hand-printed words in sand Good-bye New Jersey

A fond farewell to a place that has provided more experiences than I ever could have imagined.

least three years, and no more than five. Here it is 13 years and six months later. Life is what happens to you while you’re making other plans.

I looked forward to the move to New Jersey for a job in New York that I enjoyed – and the cultural diversity and experiences that are only possible when you live in a true melting pot area. If you’ve ever lived in this part of the country, you know what I mean.

I have certainly not been disappointed in the breadth of diverse people I have met and now call dear friends. I will miss them, and we are already making plans to come back for visits and for them to come visit me.

When I moved here, it was a dream that had taken 10 years to realize — to simply move to another part of the country where I could experience a completely different part of America – different values, different backgrounds, and different points of view.

And now, finally, it is the right time to move on again. The last few weeks have been a flurry of house-selling, packing, and moving preparations so that we can again discover yet another completely different part of America. I am so excited that I often wake around 3:30 in the morning, my head filled with thoughts about the new house and the new community.

The moving van comes Friday. Next Monday I officially sell my home to a lovely couple from Ukraine – there’s that cultural diversity again! I know they will make this house their own and will be as warmly embraced by the neighbors as we were when we moved in, and as we embraced the new families who arrived after us.

There are two sides to the moving coin – moving towards, and moving from. No matter which side you think you’re on, your motivation always comes from both sides. Moving is a test of your self-reliance, resourcefulness and resiliency. Moving is a challenge, and life offers plenty of challenges if you’re willing to look for some, and to accept the ones that find you on their own.

Moving is not a panacea for your problems because problems do not belong to a place but to a person – you. They tuck themselves into the moving van and pop out at your new place. Moving does not provide a fresh start or new perspective on life. Those things are available any time you’re willing to accept them.

So what do you get by moving? You get a chance to see how other people live in a way that cannot happen when you’re a tourist. You experience their values, their challenges, and their culture, in ways that can transform you if you let it. You gain an appreciation and understanding of the place you left behind. You may confirm or refute your current point of view about the place and your own values.

I’ll tell you more about our destination later.

For now, enjoy the adventure with us.

“Once you’d resolved to go, there was nothing to it at all.”
~ Jeannette Walls, The Glass Castle

 Your Personal Appraisal

  • Is the prospect of moving exciting or terrifying to you?
  • If you were to move, would it be primarily towards something new or primarily away from something old?
  • Name three things you would gain by moving.
  • Name three things you would lose by moving.

Life Is Honest, Open and True

Today, take time to consider whether you are living in the place you are honestly meant to be. Be open to the advantages of other parts of the country and the disadvantages of your current place. Ask yourself if you are truly at home where you are now or whether you might thrive with the adventure that includes a new location.

How do you feel about moving? Is it a big adventure or does it make you want to hide under the covers? Stop by our Life is HOT blog Facebook Group and leave a comment or tweet me @LifeIsHOTBlog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!
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  1. We all come to points in our lives that we must let go and move on. When we do so it’s often a difficult position, and hard choice to make. But when we cut those ties it is often because it allows us to grow, and too seek new horizons – Hopefully for the better?

    No matter what happens, or what was, the new chapters, experiences, and the new people that we’ll meet, it still never changes the memories of what once was. Those memories we’ll always hold dear in our heart, and in our minds forever!

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