When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Start Talking

Are you getting ready to be together with friends and family later today? Does your menu look like this: the

bookcase, lamp, table in background

Today we give thanks for the courage to be who we really are and for all those who give us loving acceptance.

traditional fare, plus gluten-free versions, plus dairy-free alternatives, plus vegan options?

What about the family dynamics? Will there be hushed conversations or knowing looks that say: Don’t let this one have too much to drink. She isn’t speaking to her.  Wonder if he’s still out of work after all this time?

Juggling all the dietary and emotional needs of our families makes it hard to feel thankful and loving, doesn’t it?

Perhaps retailers figure they should open today just to give us a chance to escape from our loved ones.

Don’t do it. It’s not true that when the going gets tough, the tough go shopping. What is true is that when the going gets tough, the tough start talking. To each other. They do it with honesty, with open acceptance of what is said, and with the intention of being true to themselves.

Before you start filling up your dinner plate, here’s some food for thought. Consider it an appetizer for your emotions.

What is true is that life isn’t always easy, we don’t get everything we want, and yet, we can always be thankful for what we have.

It’s a matter of attitude and outlook. We can be grateful for the people who are in our lives, without appointing ourselves family marshal. It’s not our job to monitor anyone’s alcohol (or food) consumption other than our own. It’s not our job to fix a broken relationship unless it is ours. It’s not our job to find a job except for ourselves.

It is our job today to give thanks for all those we are with, and to let them know we accept them for who they are. It’s our job today to help with the meal, to converse, and to enjoy all the people we are with for their unique perspectives, their strengths, their weaknesses, their triumphs, their failures.

“Courtesies of a small and trivial character are the ones

which strike deepest in the grateful and appreciating heart.”
― Henry Clay, Secretary of State, 1825 – 1829

 Your Personal Appraisal

  • Do you believe you are blessed only when you have no difficulties or disappointments?
  • Is it really your responsibility to make others happy with themselves and each other?
  • Can you express gratitude to all the people you are with today for some small part of their character?

Life Is Honest, Open and True:  Make an honest effort today to speak effectively, without undue praise or criticism.  Be open to hear what others have to say, no matter how uncomfortable it makes you feel or how much you disagree with their point of view. Remember that true love for one another begins with our acceptance of their imperfections and of our own.

What part of Thanksgiving Day is hardest for you? Tell me about it in the comments or tweet me @lifeishotblog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!

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