When Love Story by American writer Erich Segal appeared as a book and then a movie in 1970, it was hailed as a romantic story of a young couple and her tragic death.
A line from the story was quite popular for a period of time: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry.”
If you ask me, it’s a ridiculous idea that two people who love each other are somehow immune from ever needing to apologize. Quite the opposite is true. It is precisely because we love the other person that we should want to say we are sorry.
The truth is, transgressions are inevitable and every relationship has the occasional breakdown, despite both partners’ best intentions. We say hurtful words. We make mistakes. Our actions cause harm, or at the very least, hurt feelings. We violate others’ trust in us.
When we do something wrong, an apology is always necessary. Far from being a sign of weakness, an apology is a sign of strength because saying I’m sorry means we have the courage to own our actions and we have the commitment to keep our relationships with others.
Many times a heartfelt apology and a promise to do differently in the future can set the relationship back on track.
“An apology is the super glue of life.
It can repair just about anything.”
~ Lynn Johnston For Better or For Worse cartoonist
Your Personal Appraisal
- When is it easy for you to apologize?
- What circumstances make it hard for you to say I’m sorry?
- Do you have a relationship that would benefit from your apology?
Life Is Honest, Open and True:
Today, take time to:
- Honestly assess your comfort in making apologies
- Open the door to a stronger relationship by making an apology for a past wrong
- Remember that when you own your actions, you are true to yourself
Do you struggle with saying I’m sorry? Tell me about it in the comments or tweet me @lifeishotblog with the hash tag #LifeIsHOT!