I think of friendship as the bridge that connects me to other people. Like you, my friendships are as varied as the real bridges we cross – some are expansion bridges that span
long distances and expand and contract in degrees of contact over time.
Others are capable of withstanding very heavy loads. Still others are drawbridges that get pulled up, breaking the connection, sometimes for a short period of time while some obstacle to the friendship passes, and sometimes, the drawbridge is never lowered again and the friendship ends.
If someone draws up the bridge and breaks our connection, we can feel hurt, confused and betrayed. We grieve the loss of the relationship. But not everyone who comes into our lives is meant to be a forever friend. Some extend a connection to us for a period of time, and then draw up the bridge of friendship. When they do, they are making way for us to establish connections with others who have their own role in our lives.
The best friendships are those that form a lasting connection between us, pulling us together into a chosen family. They withstand the wear and tear, the potholes that develop and are patched over, and sometimes, they undergo major reconstruction. Yet, they are always there, connecting us.
“I have a dream too, but it’s about singing and dancing and making people happy. It’s the kind of dream that gets better the more people you share it with. And I found a whole group of friends who have the same dream, and that makes us sort of like a family.”
Kermit the Frog
~ The Muppet Movie
Your Personal Appraisal
Which of your friendships are connected by a bridge that allows you to traverse any distance?
Which ones are built to withstand heavy burdens?
Are there any draw bridges that can separate you from others at will?
How do you keep your friendship bridges in good repair?
Life Is Honest, Open and True:
- Spend time today thinking about the kinds of bridges that connect you to others.
- Inspect them this month for damage or excessive wear.
- Make a plan to replace drawbridge connections with permanent ones.
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